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1) Consistently Communicate (Face to Face)
How I wish such that any issues can be resolved in a good endings with any partings. I guess I were not of any position to voice out.
Should I sort out? I see many people have wedding bells around the corners.
Somehow I were upset about the thoughts of being hurried into a relationship or even marriages.
There isn't any certainty afterall. So I have no a position to say or not given my current situations? Get marry though maybe your instincts told you were not right at this timings. Or would it better once you actually be more well off with the independence in making any decisions and also to be financially independent. Whatever places I would like to go, I could actually have the ability to do what I like. I knew I were given freedom most of the times. I wish need to be tied down, but still hope to know to have different ends meet. Also is age gap an issue? Be it having someone's older or even younger than you by yourself.
Some people communicates with a big fight then they break off.
While Some just leave the big fight and walk off.
Does communicating just with the social medias but without seeing each others faces and hearing each other tone of voices will help to strengthen the bonds. I wondered.
What's a woman role? I felt after several seminars I thought such that a women should be a manager of her own finances. Even without anyone by her side, she still have her own resources. So she wouldn't have to see people faces and live her life. She wouldn't hope to be control such that every attire she wore she would be control. Or every meet up with people have to report up. She wouldn't hope that the timings to reach back her home would have to suit to the person. Is freedom too much spoilt me of not being too disciplined and to be on the competitives mindsets?
A woman got to play a part of an educator too. I saw people I know also hope to be a good father or a good mother. The person read up on role to be a good parent.
A woman got to be a good teacher to oneself, to the young ones she knows.
A woman still have to play a role of a mediator if either side of in-laws are having different arguements.
A woman still have to be a role of a lover, to understand her partner's moods strings. Even if the woman was displeased, should she keep to herself, run away or even confront?
Would confronting carry so weight to her stands? Given that men always have their says?
A woman with a child have to care about her child's growth and nurture the child to a fine person. Will being too hursh to the child? The child will learn or the child would rebel.
If a woman don't scold or punish or give penalty to the child, will the child still be obedient and do what the child should have do?
A child should be educate in the finance knowledge since young. So that a child could manage the finances well. Like the child should not have suffered and burn its hands off.
I have heard that a 5 years old kid already knew the importances of finances through reading the newspapers. A 5 years old kid could actually ask his parents to buy a house for him as he knew the property itself costs a big bucks.
Through listening to the story, it really bothers me as I don't know what I could offer my children and let them be proud of me. Or to even offer for my ageing parents too. Really strike me to the core.
Given that I grew up being some sort of being spoilt. Whatever I hope for to learn, I would be granted most of the times. Time had past for me to give it a deep thought.
2) Listen, and Listen More
Yeah, I am listening these days. Sit down and observing people. Cause too much of my words I wanted to achieve have yet to come true yet.
3) Consistently Put in Effort
Should one put efforts to actually create festival, anniversary, birthdays reminders. Also should one have to prepare meal and wait for the other person to be back.
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4) Show Appreciation for Each Other
Does gifts serve as an appreciations?Or through just notes do?
5) Embrace the Fights
Fights with quarrels ends up with tears what I don't like at all.
Fights in silence is I hated the most too.
Fights and part suddenly is what I don't like.
6) Respect the Differences
What's the differences should one foresee? I mean some things are just a differences?Some issues that one should be able to be make mute about. Is it a respect? Or just to smoke things off.
7) Never Sleep over your Problems
Some couples have issues but they just let it pass without settling it. It shows that no divorced but separations?
8) Never Make Major Decisions when Upset
Whats like to being with a person for maybe 10 years but ended up in the divorces state?
Is it the freshness of the person had gone off or just that being replaced by someone more fashionable, more financially well off?
Hopefully the fights over the children wouldn't occur?
Children are the cause of any decisions.
Or to be able to understand such that some people put up with it and to endure till the children are big enough and they seperate or divorced.
9) Don’t Forget the Big Picture
One should embrace the person's strength more than others stuffs.
10) Don’t Aim to Win an Argument
Winning definitely doesn't help.A guy should do household chores too. These stuffs should be equally divided.
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